The Raggedy Mom & The Remys

Where has time gone?

Posted on February 5, 2016 by Melanie Ledbetter-Remy Posted in Chase, Family & Kids .

Warning. If you know me well, grab a tissue. Here we go. Yesterday, I walked into Chase’s room after work and stopped to pick up the towels that I knew were lying on the floor “because of faulty towel hooks.” As I entered the room, I glanced at the person lying on the bed watching the television: Who on earth is that? When did this happen? He’s no longer my little boy, but a young man.

To borrow a friend’s phrase – HELLLLLLO? WHAT HAPPENED HERE? I need a few minutes to catch up – head is spinning a bit. My hand is being forced a bit and if you know me, that’s NEVER good. Time to “Mommy-Up.” I know that I have let go of the kid who was caught between two worlds — of kid and adulthood. But wait, I’ve already said good-bye once to the kid that went off to A&M. I got over it quickly as he was AWESOME at calling at about the same time every day and came home often enough. This is different now, a punch in the gut kind of different.

What happened to the:

the fat baby whose entire body fit neatly on my arm even with his rather large head?
the cheeky, happy toddler who went everywhere in camo clothes, with a watch on carrying Winnie the Pooh or Woody from Toy Story?
the mild, mannered school-age kid who chose a solitary sport (swimming) and only wanted to train, and not necessarily to compete?
the 10 year old so excited to get a Red-Rider and wanted to shoot everything in sight.OH WAIT…I know where that one is.
the young boy that wanted someone – ANYONE – to go into the woods and explore everything just for the sake of it, and “mom would do” as a partner?
the teenager that gave me FITS….of laughter post-emergency appendectomy with the “I left my underwear in the storage unit” comments.
the dog/duck/python/hamster-loving, Chinese water dragon maintaining , albino corn snake housing kid?
the teenager that hides his siblings stuff, just so he can coerce them in a game of hide-n-seek?
the high school kid that “threatened” this friends about staying away from his sister?
the “fluorescent green” wearing (suit, glasses, you name it) swimmer/coach/friend who could care less that some poked fun of him for his color choices
the Aggie Corps of Cadets college kid who really enjoyed the confines of being in the corps…

Each and every stage of childhood through young adulthood coupled with motherhood delivered its own set of new challenges and headaches, but with that was a certain level of excitement. And with that, I’m sure all moms would agree (with the exception of the colicky times), I mourned the loss of the stages left behind.

Just a few years ago, I begged for just one more summer of no jobs and no responsibility other than getting to swim practice and meets on time which never bothered me or Chase for that matter. I longed to be the important one in his life – not the girlfriend, the phone OR “the truck.” Inevitably, he moved on to the next stage of life. He grew. And I guess I grew with him. I sort of had to. It was hang on or totally get left behind.

As a mom of 3, I can look back and see how wonderful it’s been. I see all the growth, maturity and direction for the most part. I’m so proud of my kids. But through the process, who really grew?

I count my blessings as he still kisses me goodnight and says, “Love ya,” before going to bed or when he’s getting off the phone, every single time regardless of who is around. I’m lucky he let me hang out until the wee-hours of the morning one night recently, with “the crew,” and they were in FINE FORM, I might add. He lets me scratch his head or back while watching television. Deep down I know it’s for my comfort, but he’ll end up with a girl that does the same thing….trust me.

Overtime, our discussions have changed. I can now hang during F-150 discussions that involve exhaust systems, secondary power supplies and HID light bars. We can discuss politics on a

mature level and I’m proud to say he has a firm, grasp of his political views… and they are clearly his, not mine, because we don’t agree on everything. He still can’t keep his room clean for the life of him, but for the most part, he’s all grown up, moving on, and leaving his childhood behind as he reaches for that “next step.” That’s the plan, right? A parental goal: to parent them to the next step – the next level.

And in a FLASH…I’m out of the game.

Clearly emotions are running VERY HIGH these days with the loss of my sweet mom 3 weeks ago and now, Chase. “Losing him” might be a bit strong, but I feel like that’s what’s going on. The United States Marine Corps will be his “new mom.” And you know what, that’s great. God bless him; however, the days of loosey-goosey house rules, dorm rules, curfews and even “truck rules” are gone for him and there’s not one thing I can do to help him now. And I have to deal with that.

So back to the hard question: WHO GREW UP? The logical question here is – we both did. For the most part, I’ve done my job with Chase and I’m proud of who he’s become and the Marines are lucky to have him. That being said, I have prayed over this “USMC decision” so much that my head is spinning. The tears have flown and will continue to flow for a long, long time I’m sure. It’s a sort of mourning process I guess. The anger has passed. The denial set in, and still there a bit, but it’s happening this weekend, so there’s no use in spending any more time in that stage. So what’s next? To all that are praying for him – THANK YOU for that. But just for him? That’s just not enough. I’m going to ask for more.

Pray for our country. Pray for our Leadership…it’s NOT good right now. In this political and presidential election year, pay attention. Don’t pick the lesser of the evils. Really pay attention. Where does your preferred choice really stand on the tough issues. Look at the ENTIRE picture. Not just taxes for those working vs those that aren’t. Not just abortion rights or LGBT rights. Not just for those that are a bit different. Not just about the economy…okay, we all need to concentrate on that one.

EVERYONE should have the right to happiness. What about safety? What about the citizens of the United States of America – are we really safe? Is it a US-given right to be safe? What about the KIDS fighting and protecting us, over here, Stateside? Are they kept safe while they protecting other countries?

I’m not telling you what I think or what you should think, but I would request that you really study these “career politicians,” “big mouths” – that can’t control their every thought, and the “law breakers.” Did I cover them all? I personally don’t think ANY OF THEM can be trusted – and the choices aren’t that great. Individual groups going after ONE THING will continue to fight and always will continue to do so as long as they are kept SAFE and their right to speak stay intact – but what about the WHOLE of us? Pick good folks. And freakin’ vote. Make it happen. Get out and vote. Vote for yourself. Vote for the WHOLE. Vote for my kid……..

Prayers for more boy are much appreciated. God Bless you to my oldest, my baby, my duck-hunting, truck-driving, great big brother, Aggie of a kid! Proud of you Chase…..always!

Rant of emotions is over. For now. Okay …. Probably not for a long while. Hug your babies. Hug your family. Hug your friends.

~ Mel

Cruisin’ through Life

Posted on May 19, 2015 by Melanie Ledbetter-Remy Posted in Family & Kids, Social, Vacations .

THE FAMIGOS | Chase, Grant, Kyle – Alex & Katie

Need to ask a favor. Please pray to whomever you pray to, for this GREAT KID, Kyle (and his sis Katie, Mom & Dad) – new “instant” friends that we met on our recent, spring break cruise. Now, let me back up a bit. Neither Gary or myself had ever been on a cruise. This past Spring Break was our second attempt at a cruise and the stars aligned perfectly. I did my research on where to go, what do, when to do it, and with whom to do it with. Somehow, I missed making dinner plans and we were assigned the EARLY seating. After ONE NIGHT of early dinner, I knew that early dinner time, was NOT for my family. Geez, we were still at the pool or beach at 5pm. With just a little prodding, I convinced the maitre d’ to permanently move us to ANY TABLE on ANY FLOOR for the last dinner seating. Second night, first full day on the boat, we were looking forward to where they reassigned us. First Floor. Back of the dining room, port side. With the ship staff leading the way, we hiked to the back of this huge room, and there sitting was an unsuspecting family, discussing how they ran off the previous night’s dinner guests with a beautiful Norwegian girl, our server. We “plopped” down, in ONLY the way my family can do, and started with introductions. Mom and Dad were sort of quiet and maybe a bit overwhelmed with the group that just landed at their dinner table, but the kids, Kyle & Katie – all smiles. INSTANT conversations and laughter began, and it was an instant “match made at dinner.”

We, the parents, didn’t even really get to chat the first night because the kids ran the conversation, and the table. A lot of the time, we were all in hysterics because of something Grant or Kyle said, because “they played” at the same level. Kids are 20, 18, 16, 14, 13 with Grant being the youngest. What great kids we thought. Good manners. Well spoken. Athletes & dancers. The Andersons were big readers, and I thought UH OH, because while my family reads a ton, we didn’t even take BOOKS on the cruise. Ok – Gary and I did. After the first dinner, I felt bad because my kids all had big plans. Two big kids were off to some dance thing, and Grant had a scavenger hunt to do organized by the Teen Club. We all said our goodnights, see you tomorrow’s and moved on. Gary and I had a discussion about how we thought knew Kip & Kyle, but we just couldn’t figure it out and clearly they didn’t know us, so who cares, right? Everyone got along, don’t rock the boat.

The next night was FORMAL night and no one, including me was excited about getting dressed up. We all got dressed after a GREAT day in Honduras zip-lining. Time for dinner and maybe a show afterwards, we though. More laughter at the dinner table, and more fun conversations outside of “cruise material”, and they kids were having fun and eating way too much “cheesy” bread. Getting to know each other was fun to watch – when do you REALLY get the chance to watch your kids fend for themselves and interact at that level with TOTAL STRANGERS. Both sets of parents were just soaking up every minute and letting the kids just drive the chatter. This night, I suggested Katie go to the Teen Club with Grant as they were very close in age, and seemed to be getting along. Kyle piped in and asked what the age was and we figured out they could all go together. Off went the big kids, and the “middle” kids (no little) cruised off to the Club. As parent, we just sat there with “what do we do now” looks on our faces, and we decided to go to a little bar and have a glass of wine. Chatting, discussing sports, school, college, a stint in the casino and then we dispersed and went our own ways. Us to a show. Anderson off to just chill.

Long day in Belize and cave-tubing, we all got dressed again – at this point I was thinking “eat, explore, eat, sit by pool or beach, get dressed, eat again.” I’m not good with monotony – everyone knows this. Back to dinner we go, and again fun, but this time I picked up on a few things about Kyle. He coughed pretty hard, and dismissed himself from the table. He returned after a few, and mom looked stressed. He shared about not being able to run much anymore and how he had to quit basketball, but then they were back to their usual AWFUL banter on “how did the chicken cross the road” and Grant sharing his knowledge of music while being thoroughly engaged in the pianist who was playing a little Elton John. Conversations were more divided this night, with the parents sitting on one side and the kids on the other of this large round table. Kyle began talking about Marshawn Lynch (Seattle Seahawks) and this “great trip” they took to Seattle. And I was on to him. We went back to the room, and I searched Kyle Anderson/Marshawn Lynch and there it was…in 2013, a Make a Wish Trip.

Kip, I think picked up on a few of my questions the night before, but nothing was too in depth was shared. But the next night….the bomb was dropped. He simply leaned over and mentioned that Kyle had had cancer and I put the rest together, all the time wondering if this was a special trip of sorts. I began watching pretty closely, there was NOTHING slowing Kyle down, except for possible a bum leg that caused him to quit basketball and take up golf. Such an upbeat kid, same with the family. Not beat down by the cards that he’d been dealt. Once my kids were clued in, I think Kyle knew, and they all chatted openly about it……..and then the all went and did their thing. Kyle invited us to do a Make a Wish walk – Royal Caribbean’s Charity of Choice – and of course we did. We bought shirts and jumped right in. What a motley crew we were, as we all walked together with the moms and dads talking, the girls talking, and the boys walking while discussing NOT ONE OF THEM could walk in a straight line. GOOD FUN. For a great cause. So normal……

Remember when you were young, and you had to “snail mail” a friend you met on a trip – and that that only last a few letters? NOT TRUE ANYMORE with Social Media Marketing & Website Development Company. The kids have all stayed in touch through texting and Instagram. The parents have done a TERRIBLE job of staying in touch – until last night. Kyle texted Chase, and basically said, “hey – wanted you to know that I’m having surgery on a big mass they found on my lung. I’ve been coughing up a lot of blood.” Chase came bounding down the stairs, and totally butted into a conversation between Gary, Alex & myself about prom activities(the night before). He shared the news and all was quiet. We all went to bed in very solemn moods”in our heads.”

Today – I dug out Kip & Deb’s business card, on which we shared contact info…you know, for hunting, and JUST IN CASE Texas A&M University makes it to Omaha, and I reached out to Kip and Deb. I can’t even fathom what they are all going thorough, but they are such a neat family, that I just know they’ll get through this. As will Kyle – he’s too cool of a kid not to. Mom promised to keep us posted, and shared that their hamster had babies…..funny story, for another time.

Kyle is undergoing major surgery to remove this awful, mean, 6mm mass on his lung. As a 16 yr old, positive, strong, kid, just a cool kid…..he and his family have touched our lives, providing a “different” perspective in such a short time. Hug your babies. Hug your parent. Let everyone that’s important to you, know it!

Pray. Pray for Kyle to continuing cruising through life, pray for the doctors/nurses to cruise through this surgery tomorrow, and for his family and friends…may they keep on cruisin’ and being the rock he needs right about now! So keep our FAMIGOS (Family Friends) in your thoughts and prayers. They need it. As do way too many people. Cancer is ugly. If you get the chance to participate in a fundraiser, do it. All #LivesMatter.

Here’s the link to Kyle’s Make a Wish Trip on ESPN to meet Marshwan Lynch and the Seattle Seahawks, his favorite team. Just watch the kid beam……..

CaringBridge.org Site > Kyle Anderson

Be good and make it a good one!

Mel

Similarities between Yards & Websites

Posted on January 2, 2015 by Melanie Ledbetter-Remy Posted in Social, Web & SEO .

With a light at the end of the tunnel for winter so seemingly DIM, it’s a great time to devise a plan for the impending season. BRING ON the next season. I live in Texas for a reason. Mild winters…I don’t do cold. That being said, so many things need to be nurtured this time of year, and none can be or SHOULD be ignored. From the yard to the office, from the house to the cars and trucks, we all really need to devise a plan and stick to it.

The yard. Ugh. This winter has been brutal on the tropical plants including this dead looking, St. Augustine grass we have. The yard needs aerating, fertilizer, grass soil and much weed kill. So much to do, so little time. But what’s important to the yard? Probably the sun, water and nutrients.

Your website. When was the last time you updated your website? Is it time to “re-invent” or to just fertilize what you already have going. Fertilization with NEW CONTENT is a great place to start. And with words for HUMANS, not just robots. When it comes down to it, PEOPLE read your website, right?

Simple content updates and new content generation can make a huge difference with how your website shows up in the search engines. With so many “animalistic” changes with Google’s algorithm (Pigeon, Panda, Penguin….I think the next one should be porcupine because of the pricklies), good, clean, unique content will do nothing but help your website.

Where on earth do you start generating new content? Look at “the yard.” Where does it look the worst? My front yard looks okay, as does my home page. But the backyard…you can’t forget the backyard. The dog has destroyed it with all the “wet weather”, the grass that is still alive, looks dead, and the flower beds…well, they have a ton of weeds (welcome to winter in Texas). Compare the front yard to the landing page of your website. Your home page may look awesome, but I’m sure it could use some good “updates” or the removal of a weed here or there. Do you have something new to offer product or service wise?

How are interior pages of your website? The backyard – where the REAL fun happens? Interior or sub-pages are usually where the “fun parts” or the real “beef” (remember, I’m from Texas) of the site resides. Check up on your current offerings. Does your current content generate the message, products, services that your site offers? Is it easy to navigate? Just like the backyard, there needs to be a clear path through the flowerbeds and the garden. It’s so important.

What about your blog? You DO have a blog, right? If not, get one. Blogs are an easy way to offer new content to your followers – easy too. I tell our clients that blogs also add a personality to your business – a more human-like existence. Clients/Customers like learning abouth

So while you are setting personal New Year’s Resolutions, keep your website in mind. It needs a little “nurturing!” If you need help, give me a holler!

Happy New Year – 2014 – WOW!

Posted on January 28, 2014 by Melanie Ledbetter-Remy Posted in Family & Kids .

Behind again…..I’m going to REALLY try to do better this year with updating the blog. Life in general, is getting in the way of my blogging efforts – mostly work at Bizopia and the kids’ schedules. With kid off to college, it was SUPPOSED to get easier….but NOOOOOOO! It hasn’t. I blog, just guest blogging on different websites in attempts to help our clients getting ranked a bit higher in Google. Yep, I feel like Google rules my daytimes hours, pretty single handedly.

Chase is doing good at at Texas A&M University in Galveston – WHOOP. Just loves it. Corps of Cadets life suits him well. So does driving on the beach, hanging with friends on the beach, and classes involving getting IN the water or fishing or boating……he manages SOME studying.

Alex is plugging along in high school – still swimming incessantly for both Fort Bend Austin High School and First Colony Swim Team (FCST). Those 2 teams keep her rather busy, that and her AP classes. Great grades and great swimming are what we are witnessing with this bundle of energy we call our daughter.

Grant – where to start? He finished his last year of Fort Bend Gridiron Football, and will play for Sartartia Middle School next year (7th). He’s LOVING middle school and being with all of his friends, especially the sport friends that attended another elementary school that is now feeding SMS. We have switched baseball teams and are now playing with Team Mizuno in Missouri City. While he REALLY misses his friends on the Imperials, he loves his new coach and is learning the names (and antics) of the new players.

Gary is still at the helm of Bizopia, with me in tow. I’ve been working out of the house for most of January because of these “snowpocalypse days” we keep having. Second one in less than 5 days. Not cool. There is a reason we live in the South. Gary is still managing to work out a ton (me, not so much) and is still serving on the board of Gridiron. I’ve managed to stay out of trouble – only planning one charity event for Chase’s ProGrad last spring. I still serve on the Southwest Houston Recreational Swim League board and love my cohorts in crime. It’s really a great bunch.

At Bizopia, Google still dominates most of my time, constantly staying on top of what’s new in the word of Web Optimization and social media. Wow, things change every day! Wearin’ me out!

I ventured into the office on the cold and icy day, and need to head home. So I will sign off for now – stay warm & safe all!

Melanie

Summer – Like Castles in the Sand

Posted on August 6, 2013 by Melanie Ledbetter-Remy Posted in Alex, Chase, Family & Kids, Grant .

Melanie Ledbetter-Remy | 2013 Port A Sand Castle

Summer ’13 Port A Sand Castle Project

Summer Days are a bit like castles in the sand. The wind whittles away at the towers and arches, reminding you that sand castles are only temporary – much like summer. Then you turn around and the castle is a heap of sand that blows by just like the last days of summer.

Last week, we just returned from a much needed break in Port Aransas/Mustang Island, Texas. Our clan, met Mel’s mom and dad, and sisters family and the kids had a blast as usual. Good ages and good swimmers makes beach life REALLY easy these days. Lots of salty water, sand, sun…and WIND. Almost blew Mom over 🙂 No alarm clocks for 6:30a swim practices, no Monday afternoon swim meets…..

Good times. This year we took Chase to Sharkey’s – The Greatest Beach Club ever – on the island. First bar trip (at least as far as we know – ha!). He was “amazed” at a lot of things. Mainly Uncle Dave’s (Melinda’s hubby) ability to dance ALL NIGHT LONG without stopping. Literally. It was an eye-opening experience for Chase and we LOVED having the automatic designated driver.

Chase | Sharkeys Beach Club 2013

This past year – wow – went so fast. Chase’s senior year at Austin High School was full of normal, exhausting senior-like things – projects, homecomings, and prom. That’ll take you back in time real fast. Homecoming and prom isn’t what it used to be. It’s totally out of hand in my book. Kids still look great but take professional photographers wherever they go (homecoming too). And limos – stretch limos. Chase had a gorgeous prom date and they had a great time. Really good group of kiddos. Chase is lucky. We are lucky. We’ll miss them all as they leave us for the next step, whatever that may be.

Alexandra will be a junior at Fort Bend Austin and continues to “stare at the black line” (Gary saying) and swim all the time. Two teams – two practice schedules, but it’s all worth it. Her long course season with FCST ended really well with drops in everything which is amazing considering she’s fighting plantar fasciitis due to “extreme” growth. Chase dealt with this a bit earlier in life than Alex , but the specialists feel it will go away with time as her body catches up…with her FEET. Her high school swimming was good, but she expects more out of herself. Such a goal setter. She has her sights set on State, and if her feet continue to improve, it might be doable this year. Lots of medals at District, she again moved on to Region 6 Meet. She has a nemesis in our Region that is on her radar……still loving the sprints, she’s learning to appreciate events over 100 yards – ha! Thanks to her coaches!!!

The Remys * June ’13 (Chase’s Graduation)

Grant is moving on to Sartartia Middle School in 6th grade and is actually excited about it. He has continued to played baseball through the entire school year (WSLLL Imperials) and swam for the New Territory Tarpons again this summer. He did great, and adapted to flip-turns quite nicely. The backstroke turn actually looks like a turn now. And…..he wants to swim year round for FCST. Oh wow. We are still wrapping our heads around potentially having another FCST’er in the house. Just as Chase retires……! Grant is moving on to football for the 5th or 6th year – 4th with Fort Bend Gridiron. And yes, Gary will be coaching. Lots of schedules to juggle, but he just loves it all so, and he shouldn’t have to choose a sport yet. Mama Bear is TOTALLY against that.

Gary and Mel – are simply trying to keep up with the schedules. Gary is still at the helm of Bizopia (doing websites, SEO & social media marketing) and is going a great job of growing the company. The rest of us are trying to hang on! Mel is still working at Bizopia – building websites and managing social and online presence for the clients. We are getting away with friends in November again, to a GREAT house in Acapulco (but that’s a whole ‘nother topic) and really looking forward to it. Got Gary’s parents coming in for a last “summer hoorah” in a few weeks and then we get back to the school-grind.

Family websites require a lot of updating, but OF ALL FAMILIES, we should be able to do this. This is a work in progress and always will be, but at least some updated pictures and kid updates are getting posted! I have a friend who I absolutely admire for her DAILY photo-blogging capabilities (check out her site – it’s REALLY cool) This new layout is making it a bit easier to update – especially the pictures and I’ve granted the kids access to their own pages – we’ll see…..beware of Grant though 🙂

Have a great rest of the summer! It’s just flying by…….

~Mel

Don’t Panic – America is just underconstruction!

Posted on April 16, 2013 by Melanie Ledbetter-Remy Posted in Family & Kids .

On a day where hearts are heavy, Boston, MA, is under attack.My goal was to sit down at the computer to do a “Website Under Construction” blog…to explain why the blog has been down for so long…and literally bombs go off.

Athletes from all around the world, ones that have honed their training in preparation of a 26 mile, brutal RACE in Boston today, on Patriots’ Day…a government holiday for Massachusetts, were cut short of their goal. So sad. A brutal attack on innocent people celebrating such an accomplishment – finishing a marathon. All the days and months of training that goes in to training for a marathon, gone. Boom. Just like that.

America is under attack by who knows who or what or even why, again. With the constant influx of new people, you might consider thinking of America as “under construction.” Constant construction. Like the freeways here in Houston.

UNDER CONSTRUCTION. America is going through an “update of sorts.” Just as hiccups happen when you update something like your phone, computer, website or workout program, there is no telling what is going to happen, much less how it’s going to be perceived. With all the change these dayas, I wish everyone would just take a moment and breathe. Pay attention to your surroundings – not just the inanimate objects that are not moving, but the people moving around. Your neighbors. The guy in the desk next to you. The lady next to you in the grocery line. Your kids. Concept, huh?

We are going to have to reorganize America in an intelligent way. Without getting into a gun control debate discussion, the smartest infographic I saw today was on Facebook and it really speaks the truth, regardless of the side you are on regarding gun control…..most of all the law abiding citizens that own guns, didn’t do anything wrong yesterday. It’s the CRAZIES we are spending all this time drafting new laws for. It’s just nuts. Where are the coming from? Not necessarily from outside of the US. Many are coming from right here in our own back yards.

If America would get back to basics…..God….family….prayer…..helping ourselves, maybe things would go better. Maybe. We don’t need the government to tell us to do that. We all know it….and those that REALLY believe it, need to take a stand and help get America back to where it needs to be. Let’s worry about parenting our own kids. My kids are not the governments responsibility. To keep them safe on an American level, yes it’s the good old US Government’s job. But to actually parent and feed? Now way – It’s the parents’ job. You got yourself into this situation of having kids. Next step is being responsible. You need to take care of them.

Sorry about the rant here. The little 8 year old boy that was killed at the marathon today, while simply standing there cheering his dad on, doing what he should have been doing, loses his life because some nut case with something to prove (definitely NOT supporting anyone, or loving anyone), goes and blows this perfect little boy up. My point here is…someone had to know. There’s a parent somewhere of this disturbed person, or persons, that failed somewhere along the way…teaching the difference between right and wrong.

And some want to leave the teaching of Right vs Wrong to the government. Uh…..I think not.

Adios – website will be back to normal soon! Stay safe! Stay strong America!

~ Mel

Great Advice from Snopes!

Posted on December 6, 2012 by Melanie Ledbetter-Remy Posted in Social, Web & SEO .

Any time you see an email that says “forward this on to ’10’ (or however many) of your friends”, “sign this petition”, or “you’ll get bad luck” or “you’ll get good luck” or “you’ll see something funny on your screen after you send it” or whatever — it almost always has an email tracker program attached that tracks the cookies and emails of those folks you forward to. The host sender is getting a copy each time it gets forwarded and then is able to get lists of ‘active’ email addresses to use in SPAM emails or sell to other Spammers. Even when you get emails that demand you send the email on if you’re not ashamed of God/Jesus — that is email tracking, and they are playing on our conscience. These people don’t care how they get your email addresses – just as long as they get them. Also, emails that talk about a missing child or a child with an incurable disease “how would you feel if that was your child” — email tracking. Ignore them and don’t participate!

Almost all emails that ask you to add your name and forward on to others are similar to that mass letter years ago that asked people to send business cards to the little kid in Florida who wanted to break the Guinness Book of Records for the most cards. All it was, and all any of this type of email is, is a way to get names and ‘cookie’ tracking information for telemarketers and Spammers to validate active email accounts for their own profitable purposes.You can do your Friends and Family members a GREAT favor by sending this information to them. You will be providing a service to your friends. And you will be rewarded by not getting thousands of spam emails in the future!

Do yourself a favor and STOP adding your name(s) to those types of listing regardless how inviting they might sound! Or make you feel guilty if you don’t! It’s all about getting email addresses and nothing more.

You may think you are supporting a GREAT cause, but you are NOT!

Instead, you will be getting tons of junk mail later and very possibly a virus attached! Plus, we are helping the Spammers get rich! Let’s not make it easy for them.

ALSO: Email petitions are NOT acceptable to government or any other organization – To be acceptable, petitions must have a “signed signature” and full address of the person signing the petition, so this is a waste of time and you are just helping the email trackers.

Take Special Notice of This Section:

And another important point is to “delete” all previous names from your emails before forwarding!!! Send emails to your entire address list “BCC” then everyone after you doesn’t get your friend’s email address.

Tips for Handling Telemarketers:

The three little words are: ‘Hold On, Please…’

Saying this, while putting down your phone and walking off (instead of hanging-up immediately) would make each telemarketing call so much more time-consuming that boiler room sales would grind to a halt.

Then when you eventually hear the phone company’s ‘beep-beep-beep’ tone, you know it’s time to go back and hang up your handset, which has efficiently completed its task.

These three little words will help eliminate telephone soliciting.

Do you ever get those annoying phone calls with no one on the other end?

This is a telemarketing technique where a machine makes phone calls and records the time of day when a person answers the phone.

This technique is used to determine the best time of day for a ‘real’ sales person to call back and get someone at home.

What you can do after answering, if you notice there is no one there, is to immediately start hitting your # button on the phone, 6 or 7 times as quickly as possible. This confuses the machine that dialled the call, and it kicks your number out of their system. Gosh, what a shame not to have your name in their system any longer!!!

Junk Mail Help:

When you get ads enclosed with your phone or utility bill, return these ads with your payment. Let the sending companies throw their own junk mail away.

When you get those ‘pre-approved’ letters in the mail for everything from credit cards to mortgages and similar type junk, do not throw away the return envelope.

Most of these come with postage-paid return envelopes, right? It costs them more than the regular postage, ‘IF’ and when they receive them back.

It costs them nothing if you throw them away! The postage costs have increased

and it is according to the weight. In that

case, why not get rid of some of your other junk mail and put it in these postage-paid return envelopes.